There comes a point in life when you need to let go of toxic vampires.
What are toxic vampires?
Toxic vampires are the type of people that you come across that suck out happiness that you have. They will give you every single problem that they have in their day to you (they will always have something wrong). They have every intention of handing over their problems to you.
They know that you will stop what you are doing in your day to listen to them and pick them right back up.
There is nothing wrong with needing someone to listen to your problems. There is also nothing wrong with listening to those that address their problems in their lives with you. However, there is a very clear line where it becomes overwhelming. It can become overwhelming not just for the party who listens, but for the toxic vampire too.
You become their source that they rely highly on.
Toxic vampires are not the people who come in and out of your life. These are the people who have been around for a very long time, and they continue to be. You are so used to their behavior.
It’s not a situation where you “don’t realize” their behavior. Unfortunately, deep down you know the situation is not healthy.
You know you mentally are in a unhealthy pocket with the friendship between you and them.
It will get to a point where you need to find the balls to be able to turn them away and trust what is best not just for yourself but for them. In life there will always be pockets of trouble, and you are going to need to support yourself and those around you. How can you help those around you, when you aren’t even helping yourself? You can’t be someones crutch.
You need to be on your own to feet first. You can only be a helping hand, not their stability. As selfish as it sounds, it is the real life truth. Life is too short.
You need to surround yourself with those who want to see you do well and to see you succeed.
Surround yourself with those who want to help you grow with a smile on your face. Not to see you struggle under the weight of their problems and burdens while you try to hold them above the water.
Toxic vampires won’t understand, because chances are you will become their source of frustration and sadness – they will find others to replace your position and you will be the source of bad news for a while. But in the end, you will thank yourself for being strong enough.