If you are like me and you are one of those people that genuinely just loves so deeply you can tend to get yourself very protected by your own thoughts and feelings so you continually have your guard up.
What I want to let you know is that this is okay. Don’t listen to when people tell you to let your guard down.
You should never, ever have to let your guard down for someone. You should be able to be yourself, entirely. For your guarding ways or not. As people say when they get married, for better or for worse. The thing is though, having a guard up is not a bad thing. If anything, it is something to admire about a person. Whoever it is that you are involved with, they should be proud of your strength and encourage you to be yourself.
My partner understands how I have my guard up, I have a “flighty” personality and he loves me for me. He never, ever tries to tell me otherwise and if anything he encourages me to always be myself.
This is the kind of opportunities you need for yourself. The room to be you and if you change anything about yourself over time it will be by your own growth not by someone in your ear telling you to be otherwise or to change this and that about who you are.
When you love deeply, you put them before yourself. Their needs become crucial over your own. I remember being in relationships where I was doing all of the work to keep the relationship afloat and forgot about my own happiness, and now that I am with the right person I can’t even remember what that felt like. My needs are met and then some!
You don’t even realize how great you have it sometimes because it feels so natural and you feel at peace. That is when you know you are in the right place. It feels like second nature, life isn’t a strain and you just feel like yourself. As if you are in your own company.
There is no greater feeling than when you love so deeply and it is entirely reciprocated.
Speak soon all,