Good morning all,
Have you ever been asked to go somewhere with a friend or family member and had that first thought of “Sure!” but then remember how socially uncomfortable and awkward you are and say you’ll think about it, when in reality you already know you’re going to say no?
I’ve had so many situations where I’ve done this, but I’ve learned my patterns. I need some time of not having any plans whatsoever, so that I can have some down time away from people. I need to gather myself and my thoughts for a bit before I can mentally handle people, once I feel like I am rejuvenated, I will notice I start to get a bit fidgety and nothing at home satisfies that itch. When those feelings arise, I will usually reach out to others to organise things, and this works out really well.
Sometimes it’s not about forcing yourself out of your comfort zone, it’s knowing your mind and knowing how your patterns are. When you know your patterns, and things that work for you, try and apply that to your life with control. Learn to use it to your best abilities.
You will find things more enjoyable when you are doing them when you are ready rather than forcing yourself to be uncomfortable for other people’s sake.
It’s not about putting yourself out there ‘half cooked’, it’s taking that time to rejuvenate and be ready for what life brings you.
People can be very energy draining, and I feel like that time to recharge will help you be better company as well as be able to be there stronger and better for those you choose to spend your time with.
– Jess x