A Book/Film That Has Changed The Way That You Think (7 Days 7 Posts)

Good morning!

We are now onto day 4 of the 7 Days 7 Posts challenge. If you would like to join in, please see here.

I was really interested in this one, because there are quite a few influential books/films out there in the world, and it’s really tricky to find positive messages in some of them. In film in particular, you really see the worst and best qualities of human kind portrayed.

Generally, in every book/film these days, there is always the ‘villain’ and the ‘good guy’. My husband likes to stress his point that he likes a ‘villain’ that he can relate to, one that you can understand why they are being ‘bad’, rather than just for the sake of it.

So, this is what brought me to today’s topic.

Today’s writing topic is: A Book/Film That Has Changed The Way That You Think

So for me with this writing topic, I have decided to choose a film that had changed my way of thinking over time.

When I was a late teenager working in my first job at a video store I came across endless amounts of movies, as you can imagine. Well, my friend who I worked with at the time came across some ‘oldies but goodies’ and highly recommended the trilogy to me. Before Midnight wasn’t out by this point. In order they were released:

  • Before Sunrise (1995)Before_Sunrise_poster.jpg
  • Before Sunset (2004)MV5BMTQ1MjAwNTM5Ml5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTYwNDM0MTc3._V1_UX182_CR0,0,182,268_AL_
  • Before Midnight (2013)MV5BMjA5NzgxODE2NF5BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwNTI1NTI0OQ@@._V1_

I was absolutely obsessed. I thought that it was the most romantic and clever trilogy ever. Whether that’s because Ethan Hawke is in it, I don’t know, but I was just so in love with the idea.

Before Sunrise starts out the following (trying not to give any spoilers):

While travelling on a train in Europe, Jesse, an American man, meets Celine, a French woman. On his last day in Europe before returning to the US, he decides to spend his remaining hours with her. 

So it sounds incredibly romantic, right? Wrong. The older I got, the wiser I got, when I tried to re-watch the trilogy last year I couldn’t stomach it. I thought Jesse was an arrogant prick. I seriously thought he was such a pessimistic asshole.

In Before Sunrise, there are SO many moments where he talks over her and shuts down her thoughts and passions. He is a pessimist, whereas she is quite positive and optimistic – they portray that very well. It just is unfortunate that he really makes out like she has no idea what she is talking about, when she is in fact incredibly intelligent.

He gets worse, the more you watch the more he drives you mental. He is an outright d-bag in Before Midnight, I felt absolutely terrible for Celine. I can’t watch it now. He essentially has broken her down into bare bones. She has no spark that she had in the previous movies.

It made me consider my thoughts and opinions on romance growing up, how did I think that it was normal and romantic as a late teenager? What about it did I think was so special? I don’t know if it’s because now that I am a grown woman I have expectations on how a woman should be treated in a relationship, and I had no real experiences as a teenager, I mean probably.

You hear a story of where they meet on the train and spend what little hours they have together thinking that everything is going to be magical and special, it of course sounds romantic. You think, wow, what a cute story. I feel like people (especially my teenage self) were really inspired and taken by that plot, so much so that you almost weren’t listening to the script of the actor/actress and taking in what was actually happening and being said throughout the trilogy.

Love to me is about respectful communication, which I saw little to none of in the trilogy. I saw a lady trying to open up here and there, with feelings and passions, to get shut down by a pessimistic asshole that sees the world through doom and gloom. I feel like in love, you encourage each other to go for things that you need that push and encouragement for.

It’d be like saying to your significant other that you want to be a writer. Let’s say it took you years to finally say it out loud in the open, and immediately your partner says “No, that is never going to happen because x y z in the world. The world sucks. Ha, people are dirt. Life is the worst, why would you bother?” rather than “Go for it, you never know unless you try”. It literally was like that type of communication the entire trilogy. 

Yes the plot was romantic, but it absolutely was mind blowing to me to see how much it had changed my perception on love, respect and trust. When I was watching it recently, it was such a huge eye opener. For me to go from such an obsession and love for the trilogy as a teenager, to watching it again as an adult and literally saying ‘wtf?’ and turning it off. It was shocking.

Anyway, that’s enough of my rant!

What about you guys? Do you have a book/film that has changed the way that you think? 

If you have decided to join in, please link your post below in the comments for us all to come read what you have created and share you some love.

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My name is Jessica. I'm a twenty something year old woman with a beautiful husband, a crazy cat and a bub. You can find me on Instagram/Twitter @daysixtyfive.

13 thoughts on “A Book/Film That Has Changed The Way That You Think (7 Days 7 Posts)

  1. I. LOVE. THAT MOVIE! Okay, I haven’t watched it recently, but I also saw it for the first time already in my mid-20s. Fresh from a breakup which likely played a factor. I have not had the nerve to watch Before Midnight because I fear knowing how it all ends. Sometimes, I like to keep myself on the cliff of not knowing where the story finishes.
    I’m curious now to see how I will see it after having read this post!

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    1. I did too!!! I loved it so much, I even made my mum watch it with me back in the day! I was so shocked the last time I watched it. I don’t know, maybe I was just in a bad mood when I watched it last but it really confused me how differently I felt about it all. If you ever get around to re-watching it some day definitely let me know your thoughts 🙂


  2. I saw Before Sunset in a film class I took at the local community college about 6-7 years ago. A lot of people in the class, most of whom had seen the first movie and were looking forward to the third, liked it. But admittedly, it didn’t make an impression on me. I thought I was alone in my opinion, but I see that I’m not.

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  3. Whoa, I’ve never heard of this trilogy but I’m interested in watching it, for sure. It truly is crazy watching/reading things we used to love as kids & realizing how much our perceptions have changed.


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